Monday, September 12, 2011

NO COMEBACKS

It seemed impossible. Jumping over the barbed fence that was about waist high. He again traced back a few yards , took a run up but aborted his attempt on approaching the fence.
These attempts were leading nowhere and was making him increasingly frustrated and despondent. Eventually, he reached out for his wallet and threw it over the fence.
He deliberately forced himself to a point of no return. Cutting off all the options of not jumping the fence.
Often, our free will and sense of insecurity forces us to keep alternatives . Plan B, C and D to every plan A, a kind of insurance against failure of plan A. But this insurance may also tend to blunt the efforts to make plan A successful.
We often read about rags to riches stories of people who overcame odds from the brink of total destruction. Like the protagonist of “ Pursuit of Happiness”. The desire to succeed gets amplified in an inverse proportion to the available options. The ‘no other option’ mindset pushes one to the limit as it becomes a matter of survival. Action and reaction are equal and opposite states a fundamental law of motion. When the forces against are perceived as having the potential to threaten ones survival, the reaction generated is also one that matches these forces. Do we really strive to do our best in every endeavour of ours? Is it necessary for the circumstances to push us to a point of no return to really get the best out of us? The lord has spoken of doing ones best with scant regard to the outcome. When one is pushed to the ground, one is scarcely obsessed with the outcome as what remains is merely the instinct to survive. The success of ones endeavours in such situations is relegated to becoming just a by-product of ones efforts. The strength of our efforts lies in the conviction that we have in ourselves. Faith in oneself surpasses faith in any other, may it be a deity, or any object of worship. Embarking on anything new does involve exiting ones comfort zone. This comfort zone, becomes a sort of bondage. It raises imaginary fears of failure that stymie the will to rise and march forward. There is a very thin line dividing impulse and courage. Most incredible success stories certainly have an element of impulse. But they are also coupled with a strong self belief and never say die attitude. Problems are part perception , largely self doubt and a very tiny bit reality. That is precisely why what appears as a problem to one manifests as an opportunity to the other. Need is the mother of invention. Even serendipity blesses the one who is obsessed with his objective. This obsession might open the proverbial third eye that spots the obvious where conformism and comfort blind the two eyes. Leaving no escape route requires courage and conviction. Having a plan b is what wisdom would suggest. But then wisdom is the luxury of comfort. Security eliminates the thrill of going all out and blunts the cutting edge of all effort. The paradox of a no alternative mindset is that it opens up alternatives within ourselves. We become aware of facets within which we never knew existed. It develops a lateral thinking ability and pushes the bar of our own abilities. That is the reason adversity stimulates our own growth. And the ultimate silver edge to this cloud of ‘no alternative’ is the contribution by this huge unending universe as we tread on this path of no return. Serendipity and help from unexpected quarters are natures way of rewarding the courage and conviction to this traveller on the path of no return.

Dr Deepak Ranade

11 comments:

deepa said...

“The greatest boundaries that we face in our lives are very often the ones we ourselves create in our minds.”
— Ellyn Spragins

Nitin Ram said...

"...Help from unexpected quarters are natures way of rewarding the courage and conviction..."

How beautiful..:-))) !!!

vikasini said...

Nature ,when she adds difficulties adds more brain !! thats why the person with success has reached the maximum experience and maximum knowledge how to solve those problems in life. it is natures gift with successful persons !!
vikasini !!!

Pandu said...

"Problems are part perception , largely self doubt and a very tiny bit reality "

wodnerful too good doctor Thanks again

Anita said...

Thank you Dr. Ranade. I read this article when I needed it most in understanding a situation in my life and every word lenligtened me and suddenly everything fell into place for me. I take that as the 'help from unexpected quarters' - the Universe works all things together for the good of all those who love and respect it.

srinivasan said...

how true!that the existence of alternatives blunts the first option.
dr ranade,you are anational treasure! srinivasan

srinivasan said...

refreshingly thoughtful as always!wisdom creates alternatives which do infact blunt action!

venu said...

Liberating insight sir

myblog said...

Serendipity and help from unexpected quarters are nature's way of rewarding courage and conviction to the traveller who chooses to take the plunge.(As from TOI version)

.... One of the most beautiful combination of words ever written. The blog in itself was written with great insight. Thanks very much

pureconsciousness said...

BEST LINE - "The paradox of a no alternative mindset is that it opens up alternatives within ourselves." Dr. Arun Kumar Laha laha.a53@mail.com

Onil said...

i read this first in the speaking tree and the email id given was deepakranade@hotmail.com ... i have still kept the article and tried corresponding with you... all i want to say... brilliant...